Domestic Violence: how to help your children
Mothers who have suffered domestic violence can be reassured that there is a lot they can do to help their children and their relationship with them.
You can do much to help their children.
- You can re establish order and routine.
- You can explain that the violence was not their fault and that it is ok to talk about it. This should be done in an age appropriate way, with only as much information being given as necessary.
- You can also respond honestly to your child’s fears and reassure them that steps are being taken to ensure their safety. This can be difficult for you if you yourself do not yet feel safe and it is important you to be supported in this.
Websites about domestic violence specifically designed for children and young people
Worriedneed2talk. NSPCC website for young people, designed to give information about services and people that are there to help – www.childline.org.uk
The Hideout, a support site for children and young people living with domestic violence - www.thehideout.org.uk/
An interactive game and informative website for young people about issues including domestic violence, sexual bullying and sexual discrimination www.respect4us.org.uk
Love is not Abuse Liz Claiborne’s US website about domestic abuse with a useful , downloadable handbook for teens about dating violence. www.loveisnotabuse.com
The good the bad and the ugly
An Australian website for girls about love, respect and abuse in relationships.